Relationship Series-Week #2: Work While You Wait For Them
If we’re honest, most of us would admit that at some point in our lives, we've felt that once God sends our ‘special someone’, then our lives will start. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve made a statement like: “I can’t wait until God sends me my husband, so that I can travel the world with him.” I’ve even heard other people say things like: “When God sends me my wife, we’re gonna be winning at life together”or “I can’t wait to get married! Life will be so good.”
One day while I was wrapped up in my thoughts about marriage, I saw an image of me sitting in a car with a full tank of gas, keys in the ignition and an open road of opportunity ahead of me. The only problem is, I refused to turn on the car and start my journey. God revealed to me that I had been doing the same thing in my life. I had an open road of opportunity ahead of me with everything that I needed to start my journey- the journey that I always talked about, but I refused to turn the ignition because I was waiting on my 'special someone' to get moving. The Lord helped me realize that many of us are waiting around for a spouse, when He has work for us to do now, in our single season- while we have the flexibility and the freedom to do it. Singleness is a purposed season. It is purposed by God for us to do His work without hindrance. Paul tells us it is good to be single. (1 Corinthians 7:7-8) You know why? Because we can focus fully on doing God's work without the distraction of a spouse or the responsibility that comes along with having a family.
Now, I'm not saying that we shouldn't desire a spouse or a family, what I'm saying is that our single years shouldn't be wasted pining away for these things- it's the time for us to develop our relationship with God and do His work without distraction. We are to work while we wait. Work on the things that God has given us to do. Work towards our goals. Work on becoming better versions of ourselves. Most importantly, work on developing intimacy with Jesus.
I watched a video the other day and I thought that it was profound. The man spoke about Adam and how a lot of us never really think about how long he might have worked in the garden until God created Eve. Before she came, Adam spent time with God daily, developing a friendship with Him, and He worked (Genesis 2:15) and did what God had called Him to do. After doing these things, when the time was right, God created a helpmate for him. (I will dig deeper into what this means and how important it is in another post!)
The point I'm trying to make is that before Eve came along, God had Adam working and spending time with Him. Adam wasn't even thinking about a partner! He was focused on the work that God had Him do. Are you working while you wait? Are you working on the purpose that God has for your life? Are you working on developing a closer relationship with Jesus? (These were all questions that I had to ask myself, and still do.) Or, are you sitting in the car with a full tank of gas waiting for God to send your spouse to get moving? Are you wasting time complaining, moping, or feeling sorry for yourself in your single season instead of doing what God has called you to do? If you are, I urge you to get to work. Ask God to show you what He wants you to do in this season and commit to it. Work at it with all your heart as unto Him. (Colossians 3:23)
What I want you to do now is to imagine two separate paths. One path is yours and the other is your future spouse's. You are driving on one path, moving towards your destiny by doing the work that God has for you to do and he/she is doing the same. As both of you work and do the will of God, when the time is right, those two seperate paths will eventually merge and the two will become one. Both of your goals and purposes will align and together you will move forward and do the work of God together.
I challenge you to work while you wait for the person God has for you.